Higher Self Tech: Melding Polarities

In the past year, I have apparently been on a search to balance my inner female with my inner male. It has taken me a whole year to realize that the traits we normally assign to genders are actually independent of gender. Women are not more intuitive than men, and men are not stronger than women. These are belief systems that align particular gender traits to a particular body type. In reality, we are all androgynous. I was surprised to read in Kryon's channeling on self-worth that this particular subject I have been focusing on has a lot to do with my self-esteem! In truth, the attributes of the other gender is within me and are not outside of Self!

This helps me to see that when we take a stance of opposition to our opposing gender, it is nothing more than taking a stance of an aspect of ourselves that is hidden within us.

As Kryon puts it:

"You may not fully understand what we're telling you at this moment, but we're telling you something that some of you are beginning to feel--women becoming stronger--men becoming more sensitive--together, looking at each other differently and sharing the planet far better for it. Stop seeing each other as opposites or as adversaries, but rather as a spiritual family. Stop seeing the other gender within you as a weakness! Begin to understand how each of you needs the consciousness of the other. The result? The balanced Human Being is now able to see an overview of balance because she sees with different eyes... ones that are walking in the other's shoes, and ones that have awesome self-worth!"

To increase our sense of self-worth, particularly in our sexuality, it is important to honor the attributes of both sexes. They lie within all of us.

Women are often inudated with messages from the media exclaiming that they must be a certain body type, weight, or hair color to be beautiful. These are attributes given to the female gender which are not truths, they are belief systems. I particularly enjoyed Dove's campaign recently of showing average women in underwear called "Real Women Have Curves." It exemplified the growing awareness in our culture that beauty comes from deep self-esteem, not starvation and physical attributes.

Men, on the other hand, have had a similar battle within their own area of self-esteem. If they become too soft and feminine then they are seen as being less than male. Any suspicion that a man may enjoy activities normally reserved for women is deemed inappropriate for their gender and thus these men are seen as effeminate and suffer a loss of self-esteem. Now, the media is recognizing that many men want the option to cry when something bad happens, even in public! They want to fuss with their appearance with the term "metrosexual" coming into being. They also may want intimacy with their own sex, in the form of close friendships, something previously denied this gender. And, it's all good.

When men and women begin to recognize that these attributes are independent of gender and can be freely expressed within either sex without loss of sexual or social identity then we will experience a large rise in our social self-esteem!

So, this week's exercise is to complete the following sentence:

If I were a man/woman (pick the opposite of your gender), I would want to experience...Then, take that thing that you want to experience and see if you can see yourself doing it as the gender you currently are. This exercise will help you to see the limitations you place on yourself and your self-esteem with regards to your views of gender polarities.