Beyond The Dream

It's amusing to me that when we dream, we can dream the most outrageous scenarios in perfect calmness. For instance, when I was married I felt my ex was very distant, never paying enough attention to me. I would symbolize that many times by being outside a dark castle where I called and called out his name. Of course, he would come to the window, peer out as if he heard something, and proceed to walk away without noticing me. I became quite frustrated in my attempts and soon a passerbyer walked by.

"What are you trying to do?" He asked me.

I said: "I'm trying to get my husband's attention. But, he wouldn't notice me if I lay on the sidewalk, naked, covered in peanut butter."

No sooner were the words out of my mouth than I found myself splayed across the ground in what should have been a most embarrassing situation. There I was lying naked, peanut butter stuck to my hair and spread across my body -- in front of a total stranger!

I burst out laughing! It was a dream afterall. Who created the dream? Me. Did I not say I would lay on the sidewalk naked, covered in peanut butter, in an attempt to get my husband's attention? It just so happened this other dream character was there too! How outrageous of me not to think of that! Ha, ha.

Many times when uncomfortable situations occur we are only too ready to find fault in our creations. As children, we never found fault in out worlds. We found emotion, that was true. We laughed, we cried, we pouted and we were devilishly playful with abandon. We embraced our feelings totally unaware that we should be ashamed or embarrassed for having them. As adults, we grow up to be told our emotions are not appropriate in certain situations but they remain within us, a part of us. Our emotions are just what they are. Feeling something or wishing something doesn't make us a bad person. Nor does it make us a good person. They are our feelings and with this we experience our worlds. They are what connect us to each other.

Some of my closest friends have been highly intuitive. Some are empathic, others are what might be called telepathic. It seems an outrageous statement to make, but its true. It becomes perfectly clear in relationship with these types of people that emotions speak much louder than words. There is no point in hiding my feelings, they are being screamed loud and clear in my energy.

So, what are we to do when others know what we are feeling? Are we to blush and feel like hiding? Are we to lie and say it's not true? Are we to push these people out of our lives because they know who we really are?

I visited a friend at her house once. We were working on her computer. As I sat with her, I began to notice most of pictures were spread out across very similarly named directories on her hard drive. It was pure disorganization and when I went to find a file by name it caused me much consternation. My energy became jagged. I became annoyed. But, I like this friend very much, so I chose to hide that irritation and proceed with a light tone in my voice. I had forgotten that she's highly empathic.

After some time, she very politely turned to me in kindness and said: "I'm noticing you're becoming very irritated. Let's take a break in a little while."

It was very amusing to me and allowed me to gather my energy, redirect my emotions, and have compassion for myself. I was irritated! But, I could also easily adjust that energy once I had noticed it and I did. We spent a very enjoyable evening together.

There is no need between friends for judgment nor for explanations. There is only a warm and loving noticing and a willingness to accept the other for who they are in that moment. Then it really matters not what we think truth is or whether we are in control, it only matters that we are in cooperation with Self and in harmony with others.